Does What Happened to Me Even Matter?

By Anonymous For every story of abuse or assault there is an abuser, but you never hear their side of the story, do you? I was sexually abused throughout my childhood and raped in high school and when both of my abusers were faced with having the title “abuser” or “rapist,” they denied that there…

I Wish I Could Have Told You

I wish I could have been there to tell you that it wasn’t your fault. I wish I could have told you that you didn’t ask for any of this.  I wish I could have been there to offer comfort when you were binge eating alone in your apartment at 3 AM. I wish I…

Crossing the Line – Anonymous

During a camping trip this last summer, a series of epiphanies swarmed me like wasps over the course of one small evening. I had only just admitted my bisexuality to myself a few months prior, and had very recently become single. I had not even thought of flirting up until this very moment; it just…

How to help a loved one that has faced trauma – Kendra Schmunk

It can be challenging to navigate trauma. It’s complicated, it’s confusing, it’s painful, it’s messy. Some days you feel okay and the next you might feel at war. It’s not a linear journey but rather a process that can go up and down. Everyday might look a little bit different, and that’s totally normal and…

Why

Months later it is just hitting, why does the brain work this way? There are so many “why” questions these days. The self-blame is the hardest to get through; why couldn’t I just have said “no”? Why didn’t I have the strength to push him off? I had just come out of having a seizure,…

Sex After Assault

3 years ago, I was in an abusive relationship where I was consistently assaulted and manipulated. This was someone I trusted and someone who told me he loved me. When I finally got out of that situation, I was left with very low self esteem and a warped idea of what sex is and what…

“Free Man” – Poems by Anonymous

***Trigger warnings for self harm, suicide, childhood abuse.*** These poems were written by a survivor in our community. They wish to remain anonymous. Please, before you read, be aware that these poems are heavy and descriptive and could be triggering for many viewers. These poems are a real and vulnerable way of processing childhood events…

The Manipulator – Anonymous

Trigger warning **** abusive partner, self harm, substance use **** I honestly don’t even know where this story even begins. Thinking back to specific events brings up so much trauma and negativity. I try to avoid picking at these wounds, but I  am about to rip off the biggest band aid and let everything finally…

Kaitlin’s Story

We had started talking on Tinder. He seemed interesting and different. He talked a lot about spirituality, meditation and mental health. At the beginning it seemed great. He lived in Vancouver but drove to Abbotsford 4 times a week to pick me up, even when I offered to drive. We’d drive around all night and…

No means no – Anonymous

I had just turned 14.  I was a quiet teen, you’d never catch me with enough courage to go talk to a boy on my own, so when my friend told me a guy in my class asked her for my phone number I was shocked,I thought for sure it was a joke. I had…