You may have already browsed our website and Instagram, but we thought that, to kick off the blog, we’d give you a little more insight on what exactly we have to offer you.
We are a society built of survivors, by survivors, for survivors. We exist exclusively for the well-being of survivors of sexual assault. All survivors can be a part of this community, and can access our resources, no police file required. We believe you at your word. You are safe here.
If you are a loved one of a survivor – we have an entire page and blog string for you HERE. Please go there to read about things like how to love and support the survivors in your life; what to say and do, and what NOT to say or do. We have answers to some of your questions that you may be tempted to ask the survivors you know, but that may accidentally hurt them. We will also accept submissions to add answers to other questions you may want to ask on our contact form HERE.
For the survivors, we have these tools and resources to offer you (and the list is growing):
THE BLOG –
We encourage you to submit your own stories, wisdom, advice, poetry, art and whatever the hell you have to share. This is a platform for you to speak your truth, in whatever way you’d wish. You can download the content submission form below, sign it and send it to firstname.lastname@example.org along with the piece you’d like to share on our blog.
The society editor will communicate with you about editing any spelling errors and such, but the floor is entirely yours. Nothing is off limits. Nothing is taboo here. And – the blog is 100% anonymous if desired. If you want your name on it, it will be. If you wish to maintain anonymity – it’s yours. We will honour the copyright still and if you ever wish to own your work publicly in the future – we will honour you and your work. You are in control.
We firmly believe that hearing the voice of survivors and their experience will play a large role in the healing of others; helping others feel understood and not alone, helping them find personal tools to aid with healing, and educating loved ones who do not understand.
This includes coffee dates, skype calls, phone calls/texting, and full on community groups of survivors when you feel ready. As people who have been there, we know how alienating being a survivor can be, especially in the midst of navigating trauma the first couple years. When we were new survivors, we craved talking to someone who GOT it. All our friends, and even the Social Workers and others trying to help us were kind and did what they could, but we felt so isolated and alone.
We are NOT therapists or doctors or professional social workers of any sort, only people who understand and are eager to support you to the best of our ability while you go through this.
To get a clear image of what this may look like, survivor- to -survivor support may look like:
-Rides to your doctor, social worker or therapist appointments when you need to go but don’t want to be alone, or feel incapable of driving.
-Personal mentorship / the ability to talk through decisions you may have to make in regards to going to the police, or telling friends and family. To chat with someone who can relate to your struggle with trauma and stress and all that may entail. To get things off your chest by having someone to talk to who truly empathizes with you.
Right now we have in-person support in the Kootenays, BC and the Fraser Valley, BC. We are looking to expand this assistance all over the province, which we will not be able to do until this community GROWS. As we find other survivors who are just as passionate about helping others as we are, the invitation to join the team will be extended. Our online companionship, however, in regards to getting help or just talking through things with someone who understands is available to ALL in BC. If we cant be there in person, we’ll be there in spirit.
We will also be more than willing to pick you up if you need help getting away from an unsafe situation – We currently have transportation available in the West Kootenays, BC only. See more near the end of this blog post about the 24/7 call line.
We are prepared to find you help if you feel incapable of doing so yourself. We will do research for you and assist you in finding resources in your area. If you have been given paperwork by your social worker or any victim services program, we will sit with you and walk you through the paperwork. We will make the phone calls. We will just sit with you so you are not alone in this, if that is what you want. Step by step, we are dedicated to being on your side.
THINGS ON OUR RADAR FOR THE NEAR FUTURE:
When we receive any financial support (which we will be accepting) – every penny unrequired to make this society function will be spent on assisting YOU in any way possible. We are entirely non-profit so every penny will be put towards your needs.
This can look like paying for counselling if you do not receive services from Crime Victim Assistance, bringing you groceries, paying for your prescribed medication, and more. All donations received will be given a copy of the receipt for exactly what the money went towards (keeping all survivor information FULLY confidential).
We are in the process of creating a vast resource page for the Fraser Valley, the Kootenays, AND online resources. This will include everything from women’s clinics and centres, to Youtube videos and podcasts, to books, to retreats, and more! Our resource page will consist of ONLY resources that are recommended by SURVIVORS. This is because from our own experience, NOT all resources are helpful.
If you have a resource that was helpful for you, please let us know and we will add it to our list, which will hopefully be up shortly!
A 24/7 CALL LINE
We have a goal to soon be able to each have a work phone that we will be able to monitor at all hours, that would function as an emergency call line for pick-ups from a date you feel unsafe on, or if you escape from an attempted or successful assault/unsafe situation. We’d then bring you wherever it is that you need to go, home or the hospital or wherever.
We do have a work phone number, but it is not currently monitored 24/7 as we both currently have jobs during the day. If you do reach out to us for a ride at any point, we are STILL WILLING TO COME GET YOU WHEN WE ARE ABLE, despite not having an official call line. Transportation is available in the WEST KOOTENAYS only currently. This will be extended to the Fraser Valley as soon as possible. If you call while we are not at work, we will drop what we are doing and come. You can dm us, text us, anything. We are fully dedicated to you in every way we possibly can be. Even if we are at work, we’ll try. You are never a burden. Call us.
So that’s us. The NO Society.
We hope to join together – all of us who have been through this shit – and form an army of sorts in combat against rape culture and the isolation/ alienation of survivors. We are victims of a terrible crime and there is nothing weak or inferior about that. The fact that you are still here and reading this post means you are a warrior. And we want to join you in your battle – join together in ALL our battles. Because one of us alone may be able to make a small difference, but together, who knows what we’ll be able to do?